On the 16th of January, some of us attended the “Living on Purpose” men’s conference at the Lighthouse Elim Church in Manchester, with guest speaker Andy Hawthorne of the Message Trust. Other than his inspiring message, the day also included worship, fellowship, fun, food. There was also much time to share and discuss, including something that the organizers called “the spotlight chair”. At the centre of the hall, right in front of the stage, stood a heavy, green-leather, old